Fred Guttenberg, author of the upcoming Find the Helpers, has been featured in an article by Helen Chernikoff for Forward.com, read the article here.
At RNC and DNC, two Jewish dads from Parkland, and two very different views on guns
By Helen Chernikoff
Two dads, themselves born in the same year.
Both Jewish. Both New York-area transplants to Florida, who didn’t think much about politics, until their daughters were shot dead by a gunman in 2018 at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland.
Now Andrew Pollack and Fred Guttenberg are lauded as authorities on gun violence and how to mitigate it, and they are both putting their imprimatur on a presidential candidate this nominating season — but not the same one.
On the first night of the Republican National Convention, Pollack implored the country to vote for President Trump.
“I truly believe the safety of our kids depends on electing him president,” Pollack said in his heavy Queens accent. “He’s a good man, and a great listener, and he cuts through the BS.”
Pollack’s daughter, Meadow, was one of 17 people killed by gunman Nicholas Cruz. So was Jaime Guttenberg. Her father spoke at last week’s Democratic National Convention, which nominated Joe Biden.
“When my daughter was murdered in Parkland, Joe Biden called to share in our family’s grief,” he said. “I quickly learned about his decency and his civility, but I also learned about his toughness and how he’s beaten the NRA.”
The same day shaped these two men. What they learned from it was very different.
“It’s easy to blame the gun,” Pollack has said. He could not be reached for comment.
“17 people died because of the gun,” said Guttenberg, on Monday morning in a conference call hosted by the Florida Democratic Party as the RNC got underway. Guttenberg was not available for comment.
Pollack’s daughter Meadow was 18 at the time she died. She had been planning to attend Lynn University in nearby Boca Raton. She loved the outdoors and her grandmother.
“Nothing makes me happier than my grandma and her smile,” the teen wrote in a 2015 social media post featuring a photo of her father’s mother, Evelyn Silverberg Pollack, according to the Miami Herald.
Meadow’s smile, the rabbi said at her funeral, was “like sunshine.”
Also at her funeral, her father’s rage erupted: “”You killed my kid,” he said, addressing Cruz in absentia. “‘My kid is dead’ goes through my head all day and all night. I keep hearing it over and over,” said Pollack, now 54, according to the Sun-Sentinel. He lamented what he saw as his failure to protect her.
Since then, Pollack has worked to try to keep other parents from experiencing the horror visited on his family — but he hasn’t become a gun control activist like many victims, including Guttenberg.
Before the shooting, he told JTA, he’d been basically apolitical — a businessman who cared about Israel, and liked Trump’s criticism of the Iran nuclear deal.
Afterwards, he researched and analyzed the shooting and came to a very different conclusion: that gun control campaigns were a distraction.
The real problem, he said, both during the convention and during a Sunday interview on Fox & Friends, was a foolish educational program that keeps violent students in school for far too long. https://platform.twitter.com/embed/index.html?dnt=false&embedId=twitter-widget-0&frame=false&hideCard=false&hideThread=false&id=1297552296742658050&lang=en&origin=https%3A%2F%2Fforward.com%2Fnews%2F453211%2Fat-rnc-and-dnc-two-jewish-dads-from-parkland-tout-different-solutions-to%2F&siteScreenName=jdforward&theme=light&widgetsVersion=219d021%3A1598982042171&width=550px
“The gunman had threatened to kill his classmates before,” he said in his speech. “He had threatened to rape them. He had threatened to shoot up the school. Every red flag you could imagine.”
Such programs had to be stopped, Pollack said, and Trump tried to help stop them, by excising them from federal guidance. But Biden will bring them back. ` The solution, he said, is better security in schools, including police officers and their guns.
Guttenberg, father of Jaime, says gun control is not a distraction, but the solution. His daughter was 14 when she died. She loved dance, according to a website created by teens that profiles children who were killed by gun violence.
“I dance because it makes me feel possibilities are endless and limits don’t exist,” she wrote, according to the site. “Every time I leap, I feel as though I’ve touched the stars.” Guttenberg’s goal was to become a pediatric physical therapist. She was diligent — practicing dance up to 13 hours a week — and studious: she got straight As on her report cards.
Almost a year after she died, hundreds gathered at a local community center in her honor. They danced.
Guttenberg, also 54, is focused on supporting gun control as a way to honor Jaime’s memory. In 2018, he told the Guardian that his priorities were adding background checks, waiting periods before gun sales, raising the minimum age to buy guns and banning bump stocks.
And as vociferously as Pollack supports Trump, so does Guttenberg support Biden.
“Last week, our next president Joe Biden was speaking about darkness and the light, and we are going to see examples of that when the week gets underway. My children went to school on Feb. 14, 2018,” Guttenberg said on the Monday-morning conference call. “I sent two children to school to learn and be safe. One of them I now visit in a cemetery.”
As a guest at the State of the Union address earlier this year, Guttenberg erupted in anger at the president’s neglect to mention gun violence victims. He was handcuffed and escorted out.
Their separate political journeys have drawn them down divergent roads. But they started in the same place, and they hope to end up in the same place, too, Gutenberg tweeted in 2018.
Find The Helpers
What 9/11 and Parkland Taught Me About Recovery, Purpose, and Hope
Life changed forever on Valentine’s Day 2018. What was to be a family day celebrating love turned into a nightmare. Thirty-four people were shot at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida. Jaime Guttenberg, a fourteen-year-old with a huge heart, was the second to last victim. That she and so many of her fellow students were struck down in cold blood galvanized many to action, including Jaime’s father Fred who has become an activist dedicated to passing common sense gun safety legislation.
Fred was already struggling with deep personal loss. Four months earlier his brother Michael died of 9/11 induced pancreatic cancer. He had been exposed to so much dust and chemicals at Ground Zero, the damage caught up with him. Michael battled heroically for nearly five years and then died at age fifty.