Emily Threatt, author of the upcoming Loving and Living Your Way Through Grief, has written a new blog post on the power of dance.
My son introduced me to a new song by Rick Astley named Dance. The lyrics are: “I’ve got the cure for you. All you gotta do is dance.” Watching it reminded me how good it feels to dance. It gets my heart pumping and my energy up.
I thought about one of my first dates with Ron. I always had dreamed about having a strong partner who was taller that I am who I could dance with. I am six feet tall, and Ron was 6”2”, and I sure hoped he could dance! We went to my high school reunion. They had a band, and everyone was dancing. He was hesitant to dance, so I didn’t know what to expect. But the music was so good, we ended up on the dance floor.
He could dance. He could dance so well! As we danced, the other couples moved away from us and ended up watching us and clapped at the end of the song! We had so much fun! He told me that in high school he wanted to dance but was afraid that girls would say no when he’d ask. His solution was to teach himself to dance so well that the girls would be asking him.
We danced often in Maui. It felt so good. I remember how surprised Shena seemed to be by Ron’s dancing. She said, “He’s got some moves!” I can’t help but smile when I think about dancing with him. My dream of a dance partner came true.
Ron and I hadn’t been together long when I had to have knee surgery for a complicated problem. He came over before dawn to pick me up to take me to the hospital. I had told him about how my friend Yvonne had told me she wanted to be with someone who would dance in the kitchen with her, so we had started dancing in the kitchen sometimes when I was cooking. That morning he took me into the kitchen, turned on the boom box that he brought with him, playing one of our favorite slow songs and took me into his arms to dance. He wanted us to have a dance together because we weren’t sure how long it would be before I could dance again.
Oh, how I loved to dance with him. I miss that closeness. Now I dance by myself. There are so many free dance classes on YouTube, and I can just pick something to suit my mood. It’s a great way to get some exercise and pump up my spirits.
I was just talking with a dear friend of mine who is dealing with the recent unexpected loss of her loved one. She told me about how one of her girlfriends came over with some food and a bottle of wine and played music from her phone and they danced for two hours. She said they smiled and laughed and danced until they were worn out, and it was such a perfect release for her. What a wonderful gift to give to a friend.
When you hit a low spot, remember this. Turn up some toons and dance!
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