Check out this video from Oprah and Tim Storey as they discuss not letting the past define you.
http://www.oprah.com/own-super-soul-sunday/how-not-to-get-stuck-in-your-story-video
Check out this quote by Daphne Rose Kingma that was featured by Oprah:
http://www.oprah.com/quote/quote-about-letting-go-daphne-rose-kingma